It is normal for couples and couples to quarrel, and it is understandable to lose their temper, but regardless of the occasion, it can only harm others and yourself. In the two incidents, not only did the parties themselves become victims of emotional control, but the tiger incident also caused the innocent death of their mother. We don’t know if they regret it, but the consequences of their impulse are irreversible.
The same was true for the Chongqing Wanzhou bus crashing into the river. The passengers who caused the incident did not have any deep grudges against the driver and other passengers. , just because he made a mistake and passed the station, the driver was unwilling to park illegally, so he got angry and stepped forward to grab the steering wheel. A trivial incident turned into a tragedy, and he just paid for it. The other 14 people were so innocent.
The cause behind almost all major events is just a trivial matter. It’s just that the person involved failed to control his emotions and allowed his temper to flare up, causing the trivial matter to turn into a big deal.
People who cannot control their emotions are not only difficult to deal with, but also dangerous. No one wants to have a powder keg suddenly appear around them and they don’t know when it will explode. All we can do is stay as far away from them as possible.
Why do these people lose their basic rationality when their emotions get too high? In addition to the low emotional threshold caused by excessive psychological pressure, hormone disorders and a series of force majeure factors, many of them are purely caused by themselves. Low management and control capabilities.
For example, they have been pampered by their parents since childhood. If they are rejected, their parents will immediately satisfy them as long as they make trouble. Therefore, in their view, emotions do not need to be controlled at all.
In fact, to put it bluntly, there are only two words: accustomed. If you get used to losing your temper, you will be able to respond to requests. Even when you grow up, you are still used to solving problems in this way.
There are too many giant babies in this society, which believes that "children who cry will get milk." Unfortunately, except for your parents, other people in the society have no obligation to hand you a "milk bottle." And crying children are fed milk because swaddled babies have no way to express themselves. They can only use the primitive instinct of crying to convey their needs. But you are an adult, and adults have the ability to express themselves.
Perhaps you felt extremely wronged when you lost your temper, and no one would tolerate you unless you made a fuss. But do you think that after you make a fuss, others will understand you and give in?
No, your angry look is just a joke in everyone's eyes.
Just like a woman who made a scene in the gym not long ago, as a woman who uses this self-defeating method to make a scene, even if it is not to solve the problem, but just to get revenge on the other party, then Did her actions bring any losses to the gym?
The gym appeared in the incident with a positive image of maintaining order. Not only was it not damaged, but it also became a big hit on the Internet because of the incident.Once it becomes popular, maybe the business will become more prosperous in the future. So why bother if you treat yourself like a monkey in front of others?
Maybe it’s okay to lose your temper occasionally, but if you can’t control it all the time, that’s a sign of an unhealthy personality. They are always self-centered and act like hedgehogs when others don't act according to their wishes. No one will like them.
It is difficult for such a person to be happy in life.
We don’t like to deal with such people, and of course we can’t let ourselves become such people.
No matter what the situation is, being unable to control your emotions is harmful and unhelpful.
Whether it is for harmony between husband and wife, a happy family, a crowd of friends, a successful career, or just to live a normal life, managing emotions is a basic accomplishment that each of us should have.
To a certain extent, losing control of your emotions is actually your thinking going too far, and you have to follow one path until you get to the bottom of it. Therefore, we should pay attention to broadening our mind and enhancing our immunity to negative emotions.
Secondly, you should also pay attention to your own behavior in daily life, including keeping your mouth shut, and try not to make negative comments about others; communicate in friendly terms in advance when encountering problems instead of attacking immediately, and smile more and less towards others. A little bit of blame.
Don’t get into the habit of complaining when something happens. The reason why people complain is because they encounter unfriendly people and things, but every time you complain, you are deepening the memory of bad things. This is not Are you in trouble with yourself? Therefore, the more people like to complain, the more depressed they are, and the higher the risk of losing control of their emotions.
Finally, you need to know how to vent reasonably. It is impossible for people to live in this world without dissatisfaction, so no matter how positive your mentality is, you will inevitably be contaminated with some negative emotions. .
When positive emotions are suppressed and negative emotions dominate, losing control is an inevitable result, so venting negative emotions reasonably is also an essential part of cultivation.
Eating a big meal, exercising vigorously, watching horror movies, etc. are all simple and effective ways to vent your depression without disturbing others.
