In fact, when many girls choose a lifelong partner, the final partner is often not the most handsome, the richest, or even the most talented. On the contrary, those who can give girls the most emotional value during a long period of time together are most likely to win the favor of girls. So what exactly is emotional value? How to give girls emotional value in love?
1. What does emotional value mean?
Emotional value is a person’s ability to influence the emotions of others. Let me give you a simple example: Your girlfriend was very upset today and complained to you. She said, "I'm so annoyed. That female colleague made me wear small shoes again today. I really want to slap her in front of everyone." "
A person with low emotional value will often answer: "Oh, you can't be impulsive. If you really hit someone, no matter how reasonable you are, it's your fault." Say there is a problem? No, but your girlfriend may become even more sulky after hearing what you said, because she just wants to complain to you instead of weighing the pros and cons. It seems that you are comforting her, but in fact, she is not getting any more from you. to useful emotional needs.
On the contrary, what is the answer with higher emotional value? "Yes! That woman, I think, is also a white lotus in the workplace. On the surface, she is harmless to humans and animals, but secretly she is very sinister. She is the type where ugly people tend to cause mischief!"
Will your girlfriend really do this? Going to hit someone? Won't. She is just complaining to you, hoping to find someone who can help her relieve her emotions. Such an answer will make her feel much better. In just one sentence, you have successfully satisfied her emotional needs.
Because girls all hope to get the attention and recognition of the people they love. When she is happy, you will be happy with her. When she is unhappy, just scold her and that will be fine.
2. How to give girls emotional value
In the habitual thinking of many boys, they always feel that "we Only when the problem is solved will I be willing to coax you to love you and make up for your emotional value." But for girls, what they focus on is not the way to solve the problem, but "whether you are a partner who can solve the problem with you."
This also means that in the eyes of a girl, her emotional value has been compensated. Only when she feels that you are a sincere and trustworthy person will she be willing to solve the problem with you.
But giving a girl emotional value is not a mindless way to make up for it. This can easily make you become a bastard and make her become pampered and arrogant.
Therefore, when giving emotional value, we must learn to stop at it, so that we can not only retain our own demands, but also make girls accept it happily.
3. What is the correct way to make up for emotional value
Is it possible for you toFirst lower your stance, find out your problems rationally, and tell others "I really ignored your feelings", and then take them as a warning to make the relationship better and better. For example, "I may have thought about the problem too simply, but I just reflected on it and found that I did ignore your feelings. What I did was indeed wrong. (Then I will describe my apology and views on the matter). I was too careless. "
At this time, she will definitely not argue with you, and will most likely tell her what she thinks. You don't have to do anything or rush to refute, just hold her hand and listen. Just let her vent your emotions.
There is a point here. When she speaks, look into her eyes affectionately and sincerely, and you will find that "girls are not unreasonable creatures, and they will review themselves as they speak." "
Finally, I added, "Actually, I have suffered a lot of injustice in this matter, so I hope you can listen to my inner voice and take the initiative to come and hug me. " After that, you can express your request calmly.
You will magically find that after a girl changes her previous temper, she becomes more patient and tolerant towards you. The frequency of hot fights between the two parties will gradually decrease in the future, and the girl will even learn to do it unconsciously. Your appearance, take the initiative to make up for your emotional value.
