Arguing is an inevitable problem in a couple's relationship, but how to persuade boyfriends and girlfriends to quarrel is an art. Correct persuasion methods can effectively alleviate conflicts and enhance feelings. Here are some effective ways to persuade.
1. Think calmly
When male and female friends quarrel, both parties will often become emotional and have conflicting words. At this time, we should first calm down and stop arguing. Find a quiet place to calm down and think.
Calm thinking helps us analyze problems rationally and find the root cause of the problem. We can better understand each other's needs and expectations by recalling the origins, course, and outcome of the argument. At the same time, you should also reflect on whether you have made any mistakes or unreasonableness.
2. Listen to the other person
After thinking calmly, we need to listen to the other person’s views and feelings. Regardless of whether we agree with each other's views, we should respect each other's opinions and give them sufficient attention and understanding.
Listening to the other person not only helps us better understand the other person’s needs and feelings, but also reduces the other person’s emotional stress. By listening, we can express our care and support, thereby increasing trust and understanding between each other.
3. Express yourself
After listening to the other party, we need to express our opinions and feelings in a timely manner. However, pay attention to the manner and tone when expressing.
First of all, we should use "I" language, not "you" language. For example, "I think", "I hope", etc. instead of "you always", "you should". This avoids blaming the other person and reduces the possibility of arguments.
Secondly, we must express our opinions and feelings in a gentle tone. Avoid overly excited or angry emotional expressions to avoid arousing resentment or resistance from the other party.
4. Find common ground
After expressing ourselves, we can try to find common ground. Even in an argument, both parties will have some common interests or goals.
By finding common ground, we can build a foundation for collaboration. Both parties can jointly discuss ways to solve the problem and formulate corresponding plans. This will not only resolve current conflicts, but also enhance mutual trust and cooperation.
5. Seek compromise
In a dispute, both parties often have their own persistence and bottom line. However, in order to maintain harmony in the relationship, we need to learn to compromise.
Compromise does not mean giving up one's position or principles, but making some concessions on the basis of respecting the other party. By compromising, we can achieve a win-win result that not only meets our own needs, but also takes into account the other person's feelings.
6. LearnApologize
During an argument, both parties may say hurtful words. When we realize our mistakes, we should promptly apologize to the other party.
Apologizing not only expresses our regret and guilt, but also relieves the other person’s emotional pressure. At the same time, we must also sincerely accept the other party's apology and offer tolerance and understanding.
Persuading friends and girlfriends when they quarrel requires us to stay calm, listen to each other, express ourselves, find common ground, seek compromise and learn to apologize. Only through effective communication and understanding can we alleviate conflicts and enhance feelings.
