When dating, chatting is definitely indispensable. However, most boys chat happily online, but are submissive and don't know how to chat offline. So how should you chat with girls on a date?
1. Create an atmosphere by chatting on a date
and Dating and chatting with girls is different from chatting on WeChat. We don’t recommend being an “emotional trash can” for girls when chatting online, because if you play the role of emotional trash can for a long time, girls will only associate negative feelings with you. In dating and chatting, women are more likely to express negative emotions. At this time, boys occasionally make a tree hole to listen to her troubles. Especially when face to face, it will bring them closer to each other and show consideration for the girl. .
For example, the following example:
Female: I’m super depressed. Next week my boss wants me to deal with a difficult customer... (The girl is sharing her emotions, don’t To be honest, you should focus on her feelings, so that the girl feels that you understand her)
Male: This person is really annoying, it’s really hard for you (touch her head). . Come on, let me lend you a shoulder to lean on.
When chatting on a date, every time a girl confides should be regarded as an opportunity to advance the relationship.
2. Be responsive in dating chats
Dating chats are face-to-face chats and do not take too much time. Leave it to the boys to think and consider. Therefore, the response in dating chat should be quick and natural. Let the chat be more natural and pay more attention to the other person's feelings and the other person's status to be more effective.
For example:
Girl: My best friend and I went shopping for clothes that day, blah blah... (You are probably not interested in the topic of shopping. Shopping is not a topic that men are good at talking about. )
You can say: Hahaha, I envy you girls very much. Boys don’t know what to go shopping for. Girls go shopping with their best friends. It’s more lively. When you get tired of shopping, you can still You can watch movies together and cook hot pot...
If you are not very familiar with girls' topics, you can extend the topics from girls' topics to topics you are familiar with. The above example starts with shopping for clothes and then leads to movies and food.
3. Pay attention to situational topics when dating and chatting
What is situational topic? Situation topic means that you are dating If you don’t know what topics to talk about on a date, you can find topics from your dating scene.
For example, if you ask a girl on a date in a coffee shop and you sit across from each other and drink coffee, you will not know at this timeWhat did Tao say. Please note that you are dating and drinking coffee together. This is a natural topic that women are interested in.
For example: When the waiter puts the drink in front of you, he finds that it is a very low-quality drink, so he asks the girl: "How is it, does it taste good?"
Girl: "It's pretty good. Where's yours?"
Me: "I'm depressed. Why is my tea a tea bag (the kind that costs 1 yuan)? It's really a scam. Fortunately, the environment of this restaurant is That’s right, otherwise we ask him to refund the money (collusion)”
Female: “Hahaha, that’s right, they must be profiteers to not refund you the money.”
What? Well, this opens up the topic. Next, you can talk about which drinks have good value for money, which ones taste good but are expensive, and then extend to food and shopping malls... Then you will naturally have something to talk about.
Summary: How to chat with girls during a date? In fact, no skills are needed. Communicating with girls naturally and chatting on a date calmly are the biggest attractions for boys to girls. You know, sometimes pursuing a deliberate way of chatting can be counterproductive. In short, it is better to make both parties feel more comfortable when chatting with girls during the date.
