My girlfriend asked me why I wasn’t angry during the quarrel
1. Reasons for the quarrel
The quarrels between us stem from small things, sometimes because of misunderstandings, sometimes because Emotionally out of control. The same was true for this quarrel. It was just a small misunderstanding at first, but as the emotions of both parties increased, it turned into a fierce quarrel.
2. Think calmly
During the quarrel, I realized that I needed to calm down and think about the problem. I knew that if I joined in her emotions, it would only make the situation worse. So, I chose to stay calm and try to analyze the root of the problem rationally.
3. Put yourself in her shoes
After thinking calmly, I tried to put myself in her shoes and look at the problem from her perspective. I imagined myself being her, going through the same thing, and feeling angry and disappointed too. This way I was able to better understand her emotions and find ways to solve the problem.
4. Rational communication
After I felt that I had calmed down and understood her emotions, I chose to communicate rationally with her. I told her that it wasn't that I didn't care about the matter, but that I hoped we could resolve the issue in a more peaceful way. I expressed my opinion to her and respected her opinion.
5. Emotional control
During a quarrel, it is easy to get out of control, but I understand that it is out of control. It will only make the problem more complicated. Therefore, while communicating rationally with my girlfriend, I also try to control my emotions. I told myself to stay calm and not be swayed by emotions so that I could solve the problem better.
6. Expression of love
The most important thing is that after the argument, I expressed my love to my girlfriend. I told her that no matter what happened, I would always support her, care about her, and be willing to work on our relationship. This expression made her feel my sincerity and determination.
7. Looking for solutions
Finally, I came up with some solutions to the problem. I believe that only through the efforts and compromise of both parties can we find a balance point and resolve the conflicts between us. I discussed these options with my girlfriend and together we came up with a plan for next steps.
In short, when my girlfriend asked me why I wasn’t angry, I chose to stay calm, communicate rationally, and express my love and support to her. In this way, we finally found a solution to the problem and strengthened our relationship.
