Boys should all have encountered this situation: before going on a date with a girl, the two of them had a good chat, and then they decided to meet up because they felt they had something interesting to do. The date was quite pleasant, and they still chatted after going back. But I don’t know why it gradually faded away after a few days, and the girls started to ignore people. What should I do if a girl ignores me after a date? Is there any more drama?
1. Reasons why girls ignore me after a date
Since a girl can chat well with you before a date, it means that she actually has a good impression of you at the beginning. Therefore, the change in attitude after dating may be because the image she is satisfied with you may be the image displayed in your circle of friends. What she is satisfied with may only be the "attributes" displayed in your network, and your original attributes after meeting It will be exposed, and the girl will think that you are different from what she imagined.
Another problem is that many boys have a problem: some boys may chat well with girls on WeChat, but they will stop chatting once they meet due to various factors; or some boys Boys don’t know how to chat on WeChat, but it’s better to chat once they meet. A girl will feel that "you show her on the Internet a man who is charming, good at chatting, and has a good image; however, after meeting in person, she finds that you are not such a man, and the gap is too big."
Therefore, your problem is "lack of consistency", that is, after you meet a girl, your overall appearance , and what you showed on the Internet as a whole made her feel a big gap in her heart. This gap is not because you die in the light, because if you die in the light, you cannot have a happy date. The main gap is what girls call "feeling". There is a big gap in "feeling", so after you meet and go back after playing for a day, the girl won't talk to you much. Then, the girl tells you that she has no feelings for you.
2. What should I do if a girl ignores me after a date?
When a girl ignores me after a date, many boys tend to be impulsive and question the girl. This is not an option. of. So what should I do if a girl ignores me after a date?
1. Calm down first
Cut off contact for a period of time, usually within a week. Can. If she comes to you during this period, you don’t have to respond very actively. You can reply quickly and slowly, and interact and chat with an indifferent attitude and framework. If she doesn't come to you, then take the initiative to restart contact after a week and find suitable topics that are life-oriented and stress-free to have a tentative interactive chat with her.
Generally speaking, her response at this time will not be bad, because she is satisfied with your "basic attributes" and they are good. This means that you are a good person for her. choice. So when we get in touch again, she won't act so heartless., because if she is heartless, she will bear the risk of "losing a good friend of the opposite sex." However, we cannot stick to her immediately and enthusiastically. This will not only allow her to continue to escape, but also easily fall into the "spare tire" area.
2. Rebuild attraction
One week after disconnecting, you need to rebuild your attraction. . Focus on improving your life, work, life, sports, study, hobbies, etc., and then gradually show it through WeChat Moments. It must be true. Only true can you reflect your consistency.
Of course, this process takes time, usually a month. During this month, she may also get to know some other boys. If she finds that other boys are not as good as you, when she hits a wall, look back. If she finds out that you are still good, making progress, and still have contact with her, then she will reconsider you.
After that month, you can slowly take the initiative to contact her, try to invite her, and cultivate your feelings again. When you meet again, the focus should be on cultivating comfort and establishing ambiguity. Doing this well will cultivate the feeling she wants. Therefore, you need to use the correct dating operations to build your intimacy, establish a feeling of love, and make her feel that she has feelings when she is with you.
